Tips for Penning a Condolence Note

Scott County Cremation • February 25, 2019

It’s customary to write a condolence note for a grieving friend. You can either write a letter or jot down some words of comfort on a store-bought card. Here are some tips for doing it.

Carver, MN funeral home

It can be difficult to know just what to say to a friend who is grieving at a Carver, MN funeral home after a cremation service or funeral service. If your friend recently lost a family member, then their emotions may be raw and they may still be processing everything that has happened. Even if you don't have the right words to speak, you can sit down, compose your thoughts and write a touching condolence note for your grieving friend. Here are some tips for doing so. 


Don’t Delay 


When it comes to sending a condolence note to a grieving friend, the sooner you give it, the better. So if you can give it to your friend before the body disposition, that would be great. You can also give it to them at the event or after. 


Personal Touch 


Yes, you could type up a note, print it out and give it to your grieving friend. But there’s something about sending a hand-written note that will make your condolence message more personal. If you’d rather write a note on a card or to do it by computer, though, you’re free to do so. The key thing is that you’ll want to send a condolence note – so it’s the thought that counts. 


Keep it Short 


One thing to keep in mind when it comes to condolence notes is that they should be short and sweet. What you want to do is convey your sympathy for your grieving friend. Make brevity your friend and avoid going on and on in a rambling fashion. You don’t want your message to be diluted by needless babbling. 


Things to Include 


Have you ever written a condolence note before? It's not a rocket science, but there are certain things you may want to include. Consider the following: 


  • You'll want to acknowledge your grieving friend's loss and mention to their deceased loved one by name. 


  • You'll want to let your friend know how sorry you are for their loss. 


  • If you actually knew the deceased, you'll want to mention some of the things about the person that you most admired. 


  • You’ll want to conclude with a thoughtful sign off such as "you're in my prayers" or something of that nature. 



Offer Assistance 


If you are especially close to your grieving friend, you can let them know that you’re available to help them out. Be as specific as possible. Are you open to cutting their lawn, cooking them dinner or something else? Let them know precisely what you can do and when you can do it. 


It’s a good idea to give your grieving friend a condolence note before, after or during the cremation service at a Carver, MN funeral home. Scott County Cremation has you covered if you’re looking for cremation service for a deceased loved one. We specialize in direct cremation – a no-frills, no-extras body disposition option that will save you money without cheapening the overall experience. Call us at (952) 402-9000 or visit us at 833 Marschall Rd Shakopee, MN 55379 for more details. We’re here to assist

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